so i'm sitting here waiting for reports, minding my own business. suddenly i get an e-mail chat from the ex-boyfriend of my good friend, with whom my friend has had some drama as of late. i'm just making small talk with him-- about work, the weather, maybe getting together for coffee sometime. that is unlikely to actually happen considering he a) is no longer dating my friend b) i work in a dungeon at night and c) he's a medical resident on call all the time. plus i'm not comfortable with the idea of hanging out alone with a friend's ex. so i continue along, hoping that my friend does not come up as a topic of discussion because, while i think this guy is sweet, i really don't want to get involved in their personal matters.
as i'm chatting away about superficial nonsense, another window pops up with a boing; it's the friend who i'm trying very hard not to talk about.
so i'm looking at two little windows next to each other, carrying on separate conversation with each and wondering what the odds are that these two (who live in different time zones) would be up so late and both in the mood to talk to me.
it gets more interesting. i tell my friend that the exboyfriend and i are e-mail chatting and ask if they've settled their issues. friend tells me, "we're on the phone. we're okay."
so not only are they talking to me via computer, they're talking to EACH OTHER via telephone, too. until magically, they both feel the need to end their talks with me and go to bed. at the same time.
i'm still trying to wrap my head around this.
I have been in that same situation more times than I can count actually. Sometimes there's a bit of an alteration...like 'I' will be on the phone with one of them, or better yet, I'm on the phone with a fourth person who just happens to be talking to one of them. It can get crazy, especially if one or more of the people don't know all of the connections. I can't say I 'enjoy' being in that sort of triangle, but I'm certainly familiar with it, lol.
ReplyDeleteCreepy. I need a cookie and a nap to think on this. I mean, I've been fixed - do I really understand love?
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ReplyDeleteImagine if you were inclined toward paranoia, though. You'd be like, what are they saying to each other about me?! Then you'd ask both of them - via email - are you talking about me? And they'd be like, No. But still, you'd wonder. Because at that point, how could they *not* be talking about you?
I'm getting a headache now.
Wow...talk about weird stuff! Cool that you decided to stay neutral. Best position to take in a situation like that.
ReplyDeletethnx for ur advice... lol i am confused after readin this....
ReplyDeletei think the ex-of a friend is trying to keep as many "links" to the friend as possible...
ReplyDeletemy cousin's then ex-girfriend totally lached on to me... in hopes that the stuff she tells me abt her new boyfriends etc would somehow get back to my cousin... and same way any information may get back to her about him. well non of them knew anything- so guess her plan didnt work, but i hate being inbetween
That was freaky. Good thing you decided to stay neutral through all that 3 way phone/chat conversation. How confusing!
ReplyDeleteyou're probably right. even more reason for me to stay out of it. i don't want to perpetuate any more trouble.
ReplyDeleteand you KNOW i'm that paranoid. i'm still wondering what the heck they were saying about me.
I don't have the skill to carry on multiple conversations at once... one at a time is all I can handle. Specially if one of the conversations is on the phone.
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