Everyone keeps talking about “the new normal.” What does that even mean? I’m getting into online feuds with people in a mommy facebook group who live in Indiana and let their kids run around together in the neighborhood and think that there’s more danger in breathing “humid air” while wearing a mask than wearing one and trying to keep the numbers of infections from climbing. In New York city, they’re running out of room for the bodies. There aren’t enough refrigerated trailers and warehouses to hold them all. My friend Sol’s husband and children had to say their goodbyes and last rites to their uncle over Zoom (non-Covid cause of death). The family is being difficult about social distancing during the upcoming mass and burial. As if losing a brother isn’t hard enough. Nurses are being thanked for holding the iPad in one hand and the hand of a dying loved one in another so their family can be there when they pass. I cannot describe the raging fire of anger in my heart toward the people who think this is a conspiracy or made up by the media. Journalists are being furloughed, their pay cut, or simply being let go left and right, while people are so thirsty for information—and they NEED reliable sources. This is the kind of moment I’d always imagine having happened in the past that we were supposed to have learned from. Obviously we didn’t. The president is tweeting about all sorts of nonsense and looking for people to blame while having dropped the ball. Also denying statements made on camera. I’m so disheartened about society.
At home, my resolve is wearing thin. I hope I can find the patience to be kind to my children, who have been on some sort of bizarre hunger strike—even things they love, like “nani cereal” they are not eating. We are trying so very hard, but it feels like we are failing at everything.
It took me five weeks, but I made several pleated/tie-masks and got two rolls of stamps to try and mail them to our family and drop them to friends. I am disappointed in myself. I have seven boxes of fabric, not to mention two spools of twill tape (which I mailed to CC’s bff who is cranking out masks like nobody’s business). I just don’t have the TIME. H bought me this cool plexiglass/wood gadget to make holding the fabric down to rotary cut easier. I’ll admit, I wondered when he thought I was going to have time to use it, but dang has that thing come in handy. I have about 350 sets of masks measured out and cut up. I am making cotton straps and ironing them into bias tape—easily the most time-consuming pattern, but much more comfortable to me. Because of course that’s how I would do it. Hopefully I can get them made and to the people who need them, as Illinois has been requiring a mask to be out among the people starting today.
There just isn’t enough time in the day. The poor children are left to entertain themselves for long stretches of the day, while we desperately try to maintain focus to get the bare minimum done at work. I have never in my life looked forward to a weekend more desperately than I have for the last five weekends. Their schedule is out the window, flown through a woodchipper and scattered in the wind. Kash takes naps later in the evening (like 5-7:30 or 8p), which is nice for trying to cook/clean up the tornado of toys, but then he’s up till 1 or 2a. I have a daily meeting at 8:30a—thank God not on video—and we are HURTING. It’s like the guy spinning plates. But instead of being able to do it, we just let them fall and dig more plates out of the cupboard. Ro has started writing her S and N backward all of a sudden and does not want to practice. We are still paying Ms. A to try to get her through this until the government money comes through (no sign of it). She’s going to hold our spots and credit us when things open back up again. She is worried about losing her livelihood and even commented that she might consider cleaning people’s houses… Ms. A always has loved a flourish of drama.
My folks are still going into work. I worry so much for them. My mom works at the hospital and just masks up and sanitizes. Both she and my dad go to the store SO much more than H or I, who have only gone out four times in nearly six weeks. My brother can work from home but is losing his damn mind, alone in his big old house. He’s watching a lot of tv.
We don’t have time to do the basics, let alone watch all the “it” shows, like “Tiger King” on Netflix and God knows what else. I’m feeling a lot of FOMO about that. At some point, though, I have to just accept that I simply cannot do all the things. I have a lot of anxiety—there is chest tightness that has been coming and going since February and my monthly cycle has shortened quite a bit. My hair is falling out. I feel like a jerk complaining about any of this in light of people losing their livelihoodS and even their loved ones.
H’s employer has asked they take a PTO day once a week for at least the month of May (they, as my company, are hemorrhaging money despite being insanely busy because of the COVID-19 virus). Top brass are all taking 15-20% paycuts at both places (our CEO is taking a 50% cut, which still leaves him getting $5.5M, so I don’t feel too sad for him), and they’re going to cut nonessential workers’ pay gradually and let people go in the negative with their PTO. My significantly larger company lost $168M in the month of March. I’m having flashbacks of all my layoffs and panicking. Our plans to sell our house are on hold. I don’t know how the heck I would be able to online educate my kindergartener in the fall when I can’t even get her to practice writing her letters.
These are strange times, which I’m sure I will draw from for the rest of my life. I hope that I will look back and think “I did the best I could with what I had,” but likely it will be more like “dumbo, why you squander all of that precious time?”
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